Today's big thought: how many folks are uncomfortable with trying to avoid all of these sayings / excuses because they are worried about losing some of what they consider the shortcut distinctions between the genders that they have grown accustomed to using in their lives? I understand this kind of anxiety completely - if I have learned certain things are certain ways, then those ways stop meaning what I thought they meant, I am less sure of what things are. Not knowing what things are is one of the universal anxiety-inducing stimuli for pretty much all of humankind, I think.
However, if I only know how to distinguish things based on those shortcut, culturally-imposed-but-not-based-in-actual-reality methods of distinction, that implies that I do not know or understand the deeper truths of the things (or in this case, the people) I'm trying to distinguish. Does that mean that my understanding of "how the world is" is in some way superficial and perhaps not "real" enough itself? I know from personal experience that's an even greater anxiety-inducing realization.
I realize that this is an opportunity for empathy: when we see folks struggling to hold onto shortcuts like the "six sexist things" in this video, perhaps instead of just correcting them, we could acknowledge their need for distinction and introduce them to a more meaningful observation. What would this look like in real life?